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E-mail: Do’s
and Don’ts
“Be careful of the drawbacks in
hasty use of e-mail”
“Follow e-mail etiquette to avoid being annoying”
“Don’t let
e-mail inbox control your time”
“The do’s and
don’ts for using e-mail effectively”
“Don't be a netcompoop”
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Be careful of the drawbacks
in hasty use of e-mail
By Stephen Wilbers
Author of 1,000 columns
published in the Minneapolis Star Tribune & elsewhere
The problem with
e-mail communication is that it is easily misunderstood. Its most attractive
attributes – speed and convenience – are linked to its chief drawbacks. Operating within its culture of quickness and immediacy, writers tend to fire
off hastily composed messages that are disorganized, incomplete, and ambiguous.
Imagine, for example,
that you have received an e-mail message from your boss requesting you to
present a proposal at next week’s staff meeting. You don’t mind the assignment,
but you’re preoccupied with other matters at the moment, so you respond by
simply typing “Fine” and hitting the Send button.
On opening your message, your boss
sees your one-word response and interprets your tone as sarcastic, as in “Fine. Just what I wanted. Another assignment. As if I don’t already have
enough work to do.”
The reason for the
miscommunication? In your haste to respond promptly, you responded
briefly, relying on your intended tone to convey your meaning. It’s a
common error.
By its nature e-mail communication
encourages a personal, informal style of writing, a feature most people view as
attractive. Writers get into trouble, however, when they assume that
readers can actually hear the inflection of their voices. Although e-mail
may be more like oral communication than traditional forms of written
communication, it’s still writing, not speaking.
To guard against this type of
misunderstanding, take this simple precaution: Include a goodwill
statement in every message you send.
Rather than “Fine,” write “Fine. Happy to do it.” Rather than write “Please come prepared to discuss the
report,” add another sentence: “As always, I value your experience and
insight.”
Rather than “Well, you did it
again. Would you mind adapting your presentation for our board?” write
“Well, you did it again. Great job! Would you mind adapting . . .”
A goodwill statement is like an
insurance policy. It protects you from being misunderstood. Including it reduces the risk of miscommunication when you are writing quickly.
Here are some additional tips to
help you use e-mail effectively:
Include a purpose
statement. Although not always necessary in a rapid exchange between two
writers, a purpose statement orients your reader to your message. If you find
yourself beginning a message with one point in mind then adding three other
points, go back to the top and add an introductory statement such as “I have
four questions for you.”
Write in short
paragraphs. Nearly everything you write can be divided into three parts: introduction, body, closing; or – to use the three-step memo approach – purpose,
background, proposed action. To communicate in chunks of unbroken text is
discourteous to your reader.
Stick to the
point. When you ramble or express yourself incompletely, you increase the
chances of being misunderstood. It’s fine to be informal and playful, but
always write with a sense of purpose.
Don’t write in
anger. It’s a lose-lose endeavor. You risk appearing foolish, and you are
likely to elicit an angry response from your reader. Don’t let the ease of
using e-mail tempt you to fire off a hot one.
Don’t write
anything you don’t want the whole world to see. E-mail is notorious for the
speed and ease with which confidential information can be disseminated – often
to just the wrong people. Remember, in online communication there’s no such
thing as privacy.
Proofread your
writing. Although occasional typographical errors might be tolerated by
your reader, always read over what you have written at least once to check for
clarity and accuracy.
In today’s frantic
workplace, where nano-seconds seem like hours, speed is a virtue, but sometimes
slowing down a little is the surest way to reach your destination.
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Follow e-mail etiquette to avoid being
annoying
By Stephen Wilbers
Author of 1,000 columns
published in the Minneapolis Star Tribune & elsewhere
I love technology. I love all the wonderful things it does for to us. I also hate technology. Or, more accurately, I hate the way some people misuse technology.
Take the cell phone,
for example. What a marvelous invention, one that offers such remarkable
convenience. But what is it about that handy little device that encourages
an I’m-the-only-one-who-counts attitude?
When I go to the
theater and see a sign asking patrons to turn off their electronic devices, I am
appreciative of the effort to protect my enjoyment of the performance, but I am
disheartened that such an effort is necessary. Aren’t certain expectations
obvious?
To me, letting your
phone ring in a public gathering is like belching at a restaurant. It
might feel good to the individual, but the rest of us don’t care to hear it.
I wonder if the same
only-I-matter attitude accounts for the problems we are encountering with e-mail
– another wonderful invention whose value is increasingly undermined by
thoughtlessness.
Here’s how you can help
preserve the efficiency of e-mail and avoid contributing to message overload:
Read
your text before sending it. Remember the four Cs of effective e-mail
communication: Check for clarity, conciseness, completeness,
and correctness. Get it right the first time so that you don’t have to
resend it.
Think before your send. Before clicking “Send,” pretend you are leaving home on a
long trip, and ask yourself, “Now, what have I forgotten?”
Don’t
forget to attach the attachment. Forgetting to do this is one of the more
common reasons for having to resend a message.
Don’t send attachments to people who don’t know you. Because attachments may
contain viruses, some people won’t open them. Increase the chances your text
will be read by presenting it within the body of your e-mail message.
Consider
scheduling meetings by phone. E-mail is terrific for reaching
multiple readers, but certain types of transactions are better done the old
way. A phone call or two can take the place of a four- or five-message
exchange, especially if the meeting involves only a few people and if schedules
are tight.
Follow
company policy regarding personal communication. The less you pester
others, the less you yourself will be pestered.
Don’t
forward jokes unless you are certain your recipients want to receive them. Some great jokes have been sent to me by e-mail, but like most e-mail users I
usually don’t have time to read them.
Don’t
play “keep the message out of my inbox.” Don’t respond to a reasonable
request with a contrived question or problem as a ploy to avoid doing some work.
Delay
responding if you are annoyed or angry. Take time to cool down. Don’t be
the person who starts a long series of angry exchanges.
Know
when to talk in person. Don’t use e-mail to avoid face-to-face
communication, to communicate bad news, or to address a delicate situation. Let
people feel your presence, especially if they need reassurance.
Consider sending a handwritten thank-you note. The less convenient your
means of expression is to you, the more significant your message will be to your
recipient.
Don’t
respond to every e-mail message. Don’t thank someone for thanking you. Don’t respond to every FYI message you receive. Let some things go unanswered.
Respond
in proportion to the importance of the query. If someone asks a simple
question, try to respond with a simple answer. In fairness to yourself, don’t
spend hours responding to a hastily composed query.
Don’t
save yourself time at your reader’s expense. It’s your responsibility – not
your recipient’s – to determine if your message is relevant to the recipient.
Use Cc: sparingly. Don’t use Reply All unless every recipient
needs to hear your response. Cull your distribution list before sending a
message.
In other words,
remember the Golden Rule of e-mail communication: Put your reader’s
convenience before your own.
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Don’t let e-mail inbox control your time
By Stephen Wilbers
Author of 1,000 columns
published in the Minneapolis Star Tribune & elsewhere
Why is it that
certain time-saving devices take up so much of our time? Consider the
computer, for example. If this wonderful little gadget is designed to
save us time, why does it take so much of it?
I suppose the answer
is that, although we may devote an ever-increasing proportion of our day to
computers, we are actually accomplishing more work per hour.
But I have my doubts. Has e-mail, the ultimate time saver, become the ultimate time waster? Even if the hours we render unto it are justified, how often do we catch
ourselves ministering to its demands while neglecting higher priority duties?
To keep the
efficiency in e-mail, I recommend three things: manage your files, keep
the junk out of your inbox, and avoid pestering others.
In
E-Writing: 21st-Century Tools for Effective Communication,
Dianna Booher offers a number of pointers for managing high-volume e-mail,
from “Use LIFO (last in, first out)” to “File thin rather than fat.”
To
protect yourself from spam (or “unsolicited items sent in bulk”), Booher
recommends either activating a filter to block future messages or using a
quick and easy method to inform the sender’s Internet service provider (ISP)
of the abuse: “Simply remove everything in the e-mailer’s address before the
@, replace it with abuse, and forward the offending e-mail to the
service provider at abuse@aol.com or another ISP address.”
The only
problem with this proactive approach to protecting your inbox is that it may
generate additional traffic as your messages bounce back from spammers who
seek to hide or disguise their own addresses or as the ISPs acknowledge
receipt of your messages.
In
Email Basics: Practical Tips To Improve Team Communication, Kristin
Arnold offers 31 helpful tips for managing your inbox and being considerate of
others. Here are the ones I liked best:
1. Check
your email regularly (e.g., first thing in the morning and right after lunch)
– not continually.
2. Before
opening your messages, check their subject lines while the messages are still
in your inbox browser, and delete the junk mail. Arnold compares this to
“standing by the trash can as you go through your ‘snail mail.’”
3. Handle
your messages only once. She recommends the DRAFS approach: Delete, Reply,
Act, Forward, Save.
4. Remove
yourself from distribution lists. Politely ask your associates and friends
not to forward jokes, chain letters, or other types of junk mail.
5. Don’t
reply to FYI or cc messages. No response is expected.
6. Eliminate
the clutter when forwarding. Delete excess forwarding information that
doesn’t relate to the content of the message.
7. Remind
your reader of the context. Quote or paraphrase a point so that your
recipient knows what you’re talking about.
8. Think
twice before using Reply All. Ask yourself if everyone listed in the
incoming to: and cc: lines needs to know your response.
9. Use
the two-minute approach. Act immediately on messages that will require less
than two minutes of your time.
10. Create
file folders to save your messages. Create specific subject sub-folders for
particular items or projects and give them descriptive titles so that you can
find them later.
11. Know
the limits of the medium. Arnold puts it colorfully: “When email has been
lobbed back and forth like a tennis ball for more than three volleys, it’s
time to pick up the phone, or go face to face.”
However you decide to
define your relationship with your electronic companion, remember this: If you don’t manage your inbox, your inbox will manage you.
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The do’s and don’ts for using e-mail
effectively
By Stephen Wilbers
Author of 1,000 columns
published in the Minneapolis Star Tribune & elsewhere
We’ve all heard stories about
misunderstandings, angry exchanges, and damaged working relationships that
have resulted from carelessly worded e-mail messages.
When Joe DeClue sent an e-mail message
requesting that a buyer re-fax an order that hadn’t come through legibly,
he was dismayed to receive this response: "I resent the entire request."
Baffled, DeClue wondered what he had
done to give offense. And then he figured it out: The buyer meant he had
"re-sent" the entire order.
To avoid similar misunderstandings,
follow three rules:
1. Always
proofread your text before you send it.
Not long ago I noticed something strange
about the opening of my response to a reader’s query: "Thanks for your
mess." I had come perilously close to sending my own "mess-age."
2. Include
a goodwill statement.
A simple "nice to hear from you" or
"good luck with your project" establishes a friendly context that makes it
less likely your reader will misinterpret your tone elsewhere. DeClue’s
misunderstanding, for example, might have been avoided if the buyer had
written, "No problem. I resent the entire request."
3. Never
put anything into an e-mail message that you don’t want the entire world
to see.
How many stories have you heard about
indiscrete messages that found their way to someone other than the
intended audience? How many relationships have been damaged as a result?
In Email Basics – a book about
the size of a postcard and not quite as thick as a deck of cards – Kristin
Arnold offers 130 practical tips on using e-mail to improve team
communication. Here are my favorites:
1. Don’t
"flame" or write strongly worded, emotionally charged opinions.
2. Don’t
ever send a "slam-o-gram" (a curt, negative, e-mail message).
3. If
a message elicits an emotional response when you read it, take a second
look at the wording and question your interpretation.
4. Review
your company policy on e-mail and Internet use, bearing in mind you have
no right to privacy and your use will be monitored.
5. Remember
that e-mail can serve as legal documentation – ask yourself if your
attorney could defend you from your own words.
6. Do
not hide behind e-mail to say something better said face to face.
7. Periodically
declare an "E-mail Moratorium Day" where team members can use any other
medium except e-mail; at the end of the day, assess what happened
and consider better ways to communicate.
8. Quit
fiddling with e-mail throughout the day – control your e-mail; don’t let
it control you.
9. Use
Reply All only when every recipient really needs your information.
10. Act
immediately on items that will take less than two minutes.
11. Agree
on how often team members will check messages and on a reasonable time to
respond.
12. Routinely
and frequently virus-scan your system, especially when receiving or
downloading files from other systems.
13. Place
the most important information at the beginning of your message.
14. Divide
long paragraphs into shorter ones – three to six lines of type – and
double space between paragraphs.
15. When
listing three or more items, create a "vertical" list of numbered items.
16. Pay
attention to grammar, punctuation, and spelling.
17. Do
not rely completely on your spell-checker.
18.Be
tolerant of your teammates’ mistakes.
As if to illustrate the last point, the
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Don’t be a netcompoop
By Stephen Wilbers
Author of 1,000 columns
published in the Minneapolis Star Tribune & elsewhere
Here’s my
take on cell phones. They’re marvelous little gadgets for instant
communication, but they can be a terrific nuisance (or worse) when they’re
misused.
Same with
email. The difference is that cell phones are a relatively new technology,
and we’re still discovering new ways to be annoying with them. Email, on
the other hand, has been around long enough for us to have become really
good at misusing it.
So I
think it’s time we create names for some of the more common types of email
abusers and abuses. Here are my suggestions:
Forwardamaniacs
forward
everything and anything they find interesting to everyone and anyone they
know on the assumption that, if they find it interesting, everyone will.
For whatever reason, Forwardamaniacs do not respond to repeated requests
that they stop forwarding things to you.
Replyobroadcasters
have
never noticed both the “Reply all” and the “Reply” icons on their email
software and so use “Reply all” exclusively, thereby generating enormous
quantities of unnecessary email.
Repartators
are
Replyobroadcasters who have noticed the “Reply” icon but
nevertheless use “Reply all” because they believe their rejoinders so
clever and entertaining that they are worthy of the attention of a larger
audience.
Beeseeseers
send
blind copies to various members of a group while maintaining the facade of
open and direct communication with all parties.
Beeseeseeoopsers
accidently forward a message sent “Bcc” to the person who wasn’t supposed
to see it.
Thanksonutos
send a
thank-you for a thank-you message. Note, however, that Thanksonutos
existed long before email, as evidenced by Evelyn Waugh’s observation:
“His courtesy was somewhat extravagant. He would write and thank people
who wrote to thank him for wedding presents and when he encountered anyone
as punctilious as himself the correspondence ended only with death.”
Slamogramers
send
curt, succinct, insulting messages. Curiously, Slamogramers themselves
tend to take offense when they themselves are criticized.
In-your-courters
seek to
hide that they have not done their work on a project by sending queries
for nonessential information just before a deadline.
Multipointers
begin a
message with one point in mind but then add 17 more points during the
process of composition.
Clumpers
are Multipointers who present their 18 points without a paragraph break.
Maddashers
– don’t
know how to use punctuation marks – and so use – dashes as the default
mark for all situations –
Fragamentarians.
Write only in sentence fragments. Never in complete sentences. Like this.
Netnaysayers
don’t
respond to multiple requests to participate in a discussion and then weigh
in later with a negative statement.
Signamotivators
use
signature files with long motivational quotes, advertisements or gimmicks.
Cursiecutsies
use
really cool looking cursive fonts that are difficult to read.
Dettachomaniacs
always
forget to attach the attachment and so have to send a second message. The
second message usually begins with the word “Oops.”
Netcompoops
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